literally, within these last two days i found out an earful. i discovered from my sister’s best friend that my dad had snorted cocaine with my sister who is 18 and just getting over a drug problem herself. then, after i decided to just pretend i never heard that news, i found a bullet (used for cocaine snorting!!) in my dad’s laundry which i do for him (my mom left us when i was two) and i have no idea whether or not to confront him, and if i should what to say. HELP!! this is eating me alive.
i’m only 15!! its not even fair.
call the POLICE because ur dad shouldnt be using drugs especially if hes doing it wiht ur sis
Dont call the police, play stupid snoop thru his stuff find all his drug stuff n say you found it while you were doing his laundry and ask him what it is used for, that would make him feel really stupid that his 15 year old caught him. OR you could steal all his drugs blame it on your 18 year old sister and try it your self J/k throw it away evey time you find it.
If you like your dad try to talk to him about it. If that doesn’t work flush anything you find.
If you don’t like your dad call the cops.
No its not fair thats a hard one well you could go on as if you never hard about it but you won,t last you will blow your lid ask him can you talk to him and tell him what you have heard but don,t tell him who from
its best if he does not know who from explain to him what it is doing to you and ask him to cut it out if not for him then for you and tell him that you realy need him as a father and not a coke head and see how it goes you have to take the bull by the horns on this one my friend.
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Before you do anything, do you have family that you can stay with? I ask because once you report your dad they will most likely take you to foster care. Do you have grandparents or an aunt or uncle you can talk to about this? In my opinion your dad should be in jail for using drugs with his daughter. You need to get as far away as you can from their destructive behavior.
Would love to have some good news for you but right now there is little. I was in your situation when I was fifteen and could do nothing about it. My family lost everything due to my step-father’s cocaine addiction.
What is to come:
1. If he is using cocaine with your sister there are already boundaries being violated and a possibility of sexual abuse exists. Cocaine users rarely maintain healthy sexual boundaries.
2. I guarantee you a WHOLE lot of money is being lost. Kiss your college education good bye.
3. His addiction is only going to get worse. If he is doing it with your sister he is in major denial and you trying to get him treatment will be fruitless.
4. It will lead to trouble with the police, loss of job, and loss of your home.
Now, you are only 15 and there is little you can do about this except for what the other poster told you; find a family member you can live with and TELL them about this problem. Make sure it is an adult who will believe you and not confront him about the cocaine abuse and the abuse towards your sister. YES! Using drugs with your 18 year old sister is abuse.
The best move is to get out. Once you are in a safe place with a safe relative GET HELP. Your school or the new school you go to should have a drug counselor who is unrelated to the school and will keep the counseling sessions confidential.
More bad news if your mom left there were a lot of reasons to do with her and him. I wouldn’t try contacting her. Secondly if your Dad is this way I guarantee you there will be family members in his family that are enablers and/or in denial so be very sure your not in the scenario where you tell this and then they go right behind your back to your father and you are facing another nightmare.
This is bad news but it is reality. One of the reasons I hate coke heads and have no sympathy for them is the amount of destruction they bring into their family’s and friends lives. At fifteen you make some decisions that literally affect you for the rest of your life and decisions the adults make in your life will affect you for the rest of your life. I am 39 and it took me five years of therapy, revisiting living with a mother that was a codependent and user herself that allowed this step-father to ruin our lives, and at times using alcohol to cope instead of using real coping skills with a mother instead of kicking her out which is what I needed to do. I have had to cut them loose this year. Do it NOW to the best of your ability.
It is lonely at first but you find friends and you climb out of the pit you were born into and they congratulate you for getting out. Trust me I spent years in denial as to how horrible my mother was. This was after BOTH my parents behavior left me homeless and in a foster home as a kid, my mother and step-father spending through my college money, and this last journey with my mother cost me everything I had. Don’t wait until you are 39 and rebuilding in middle age.
The good news. Be strong be very very strong and you will rise above this. I maybe 39 but I will rebuild – now no one is here to drag me down with them. Misery loves company. I didn’t know what this meant at your age so I will describe it as a visual. Imagine a dirty rotten miserable individual making excuses for sitting in their own filth and grabbing hold of you and dragging you into their muck. Misery loves company.
Best of luck to you in finding a new path and a new family.