i have done alot of things that i am not Proud of. I dont go around bragging or anything. cuz i feel bad.I dont regreat any think i have done.
if she ask i rather me tell her over some one else. The funny thing is alot of people would never believe me if i told them.
i have been arrested when i was 17 now i am 24, i been caught up in drugs pot to black tar heroin, pills and all that jazz. never done crack or meth. Good news i been clean for 6 months. I been a hard core drinker for 4 years or so. I still drink just nothing crazy maybe a beer or 2 a day that is it. Also done some random stuff that i never got caught.I got a lot stories.
like i said i dont go around braging , cuz i feel an loser , and i am ashamed of my past.
So if a girl you been seeing for lest say 5 months and she ask about stuff do you tell her or lie?I am single now , and never will come out and tell a girl this right off the bat.
BTW dont judge me till you take a long look at your self.
tell her the truth,
she asked you, if she wasn’t prepaired for anything, then she shouldn’t have asked.
be honest
and i can judge you,
you posted this up!
but the point is youre ashamed of your past, that means youve changed.
tell her, and be honest about how u are
and make changes, and prove them!
it’s none of her business what YOUR past was. As long as you don’t continue to do that, it’s ok not to tell.
yea bro…if the girl can’t accept you and your previous mistakes, she’s not worth it.
Almost everyone has things in their past that they are not proud of. If you care about your significant other and they ask you, I think you should be able to trust them enough to tell them your past. It is ultimately up to you, but if you didn’t have your past, you wouldn’t be where you are… with this other person.
Yes, come clean and tell her but she does not need to know every single detail about the past. your past is your past and the reason you move on was for the better so let your past be
why would you lie, that’s a stupid thing to do
just tell her
it’s in the past so why should she judge you, unless you’re lying and still do drugs or something
but if she cares, she’s a prick and you shouldn’t be with her anyway, if she likes/loves you, she’ll understand.
tell her the same way you told us, explain to her that you are ashamed and not proud of what you have done. tell her how you have been clean just explain to her how you feel about it all. you don’t have to tell her everything just the main parts.
I have heard worse, but regardless I do believe that a girl has the right to know about your past if she asked you. Your right, it is best if she hears it from you then someone else. Nobody likes a liar, and if there is anything that makes a relationship last, it’s honesty and trust. Those can’t be achieved if you decide to withhold all of this. I think what matters most to a decent girl would be if you have done your best to change your life around. It’s your choice. Make the call.
HOMEBOY EVERY1 HAS A PAST. AND YOU SHOULDNT FEEL ASHAME FOR WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH. AS LONG S YOU LEARNED FROM YOUR MISTAKES. IF A GIRL IS GOIN TO JUDGE YOU THE WRONG WAY FOR YOUR PAST THEN SHE ISNT FOR YOU. YOU’LL FIND A CHICK THATS RIGHT FOR YOU. TRUST ME..
My boyfriend wasn’t proud of his past either. He’d done similar things as you have. We both admitted to having secrets early on in the relationship, but decided to wait until we both felt comfortable with each other to discuss the issues. When we finally told each other, it was like a relief. I told him off-the-bat that I’d never judge him for anything he’d done in his past, because I love him now and the past is what’s made him who he is. And I love who he is now. Tell her the honest truth, but make sure she understands that it was the past. It’ll probably be hard for her to hear some things from your past, but it’ll comfort her knowing that you’re not into drugs anymore (Congrats on that, by the way!). Just be honest, and hopefully she’ll appreciate that. Good luck hun!
Oh, you haven’t done anything so terrible … you never murdered, raped or molested anyone … you did some drugs and you drank. Big deal. You’re not doing it anymore … you know, my ex-husband was a wonderful man (for a while LOL), but before he met me, he was in jail for a little bit for drugs and stuff … now he’s a GREAT father to our two children …
Yeah, if you see this relationship moving toward something really serious, you should tell her now, and see how she reacts. Tell her something sweet, too, like, “I don’t need any of that anymore, baby. Loving you has completed me.” Sounds corny but chicks dig it!
Best of luck!
Congratulations on turning your life around! I did many stupid things when younger…..we all live and learn. No relationship will last with lies or half-truths. You need to tell her all about this. If you alter the story it will come back at you later. (P.S. – The only thing I would say to lie about is former girlfriends. Never a good idea to get into any graphic details about former sex life.)
If others know about your past, then you should come out and tell her. You just don’t want to risk her hearing it from someone else. Tell her honestly that all of this happened before you two started dating and tell her how much you’ve improved since then. You said you’ve been clean for about 6 months…that’s something to be proud of! I’d just tell her the truth…and let her know how much you’ve been working on it. Hopefully, she’ll see your ambitions are good. Good luck!
I had a boyfriend that sounds just like you. He did a lot of stuff and he told me from the start that he did this. I was actually proud that he came out and told me this. Not all at once because there were things we was ashamed of but still he answered. He answered because he changed. If you changed and you let her know that she should have no problem with your past. Of course you better stay good. That guy left me so he could do that stuff again. “Dream of Tomorrow, Work on Today, Let go of Yesterday.” Past doesn’t matter
5 mnths is a very long time to be dating sum1. dat indicates u really like her. if u really do, it is wiser to fill her in with what she needs to know. dun give her details. give her a picture of who u used to be and tell her in a way dat would make her see the amazing changed person dat u r now.
ps; b sweet when telling, it will overshadow ur stories.
It has only been 6 months, which seems so long sometimes, but in the grand scheme of things is so short. Also, if you asked her about her past, would you appreciate her honesty or would you prefer her to lie since she may feel like a ‘loser’ as well?
I have come clean alot with people since it is part of the path of gettin to know eachother & potentially see where it goes. Besides, noone is a saint & we ALL have done things we are not proud of, some more so than others. No need to feel like a loser, life is all live and learn, and if you dont learn, then you do some more living until hopefully you do! No worries.
Ultimately, when you first meet someone, I wouldnt lay it all out on the table. Let it linger for a bit while you get a feel for that person, and then if you feel they are worth getting to know & them gettin to know you, then ease on into the past. Best part of it is that it is simply that, the PAST. Like I said, noone is a freaken saint.
Good luck.
Come clean.
What kind of relationship would it be if it was based on lies?