I come from a very respectful family..And this is not at all how I was raised or brought up. So you can imagine my families reaction when seeing the news.. My b/f and I have been together 5 years and just moved in together about 3 months ago..He started hanging out with the wrong crowd in the past year. With that said, apparently there has been a 2 month investigation and he was “working with” a undercover narcotics cop.
It was all over the news here. Luckily I was not home, but when I got home I saw they completely tore my home apart. Ripped out the ceilings of the closet, threw everything all over, left the refridgerator unplugged. There is insulation from the ceiling is ALL OVER my clothes laying on the floor. My laptop was thrown on the floor, everything is everywhere and I dont even know what to do.
I rent the house. Rent is due today. I cant pay it on my own. And the door is broken, the ceilings are tore apart. How am I going to fix it? Is it my responsibility even though I have nothing to do with it?? His name is not on the house at all.
Like I said, according to his papers-4 counts of trafficking cocaine. Seized 200 grams= over $5000 in the past 2 months.
What is going to happen? He is a first time offender. Are they going to try and make a deal for more information from him? Or will they give him time?
Please no negative comments. This JUST happened and I dont even know where Im going to live or how I am going to get through this. I want to be with him but my family is saying I just cant have anything to do with him. They dont know how things were between him and I. I was not involved at all and its not as bad as it seems.
If I find a family member to live with, I cant have anything to do with him or his family (who im very close with). I dont want that, but my job is through my family and where else can I find somewhere to live until he gets out and we can move. And that means I would have to leave my family. Oh, and I am possibly pregnant.
First off, I suggest you get rid of the negativity in your life [the b/f]. That’s the first step. Why would want to want to live with someone who could be a convicted felon facing up to 10-15 years in Federal prison.
Rebuilding a life is small steps. Take the first one above.
Is the apartment lease in your name or his?
And the police are idiots when they deliberately smash up laptops and leave refrigerators unplugged. They should be forced to pay for the damages they caused. For a handful of drugs or anything, they shouldn’t be allowed to destroy everything they touch. They are just being idiots who are on power trips because they have a gun and a badge. Yes, your boyfriend should be punished, but the police need to be disciplined as well for causing excessive damage to your place. They should pay for the damages.
And dump your boyfriend.
Okay, don’t worry about seeing your boyfriend for a while, he will be away for a few years, even if he rats out others. As far as the house goes you are pretty much screwed. They had a suicidal man in the town I live in last year that had a standoff with the cops, they shot up the house, tear gas everywhere, and the guy blew his head off in the end. The police said “oh well” and the family had to clean it all. Be prepared to possibly lose your security deposit. Sorry.
Pick the wrong guy didn’t you. I hear it all the time these guys haven’t got a pot to piss in and The females fall for the same old line and put everything in their name (that should be the first clue). Something doesn’t sound right if he was working with an undercover cop why would they tear your place about. its not as bad as it seems, you sure about that?
Think girl over the past five years who’s been doing what. You better do some digging because if you jump right back into it you could be making the worst mistake of your life. First thing I would do is see if he’s been lying to you. Check to see if he has a criminal background. Sorry but I think there is more to then you know.
Oh hon, I am so sorry to hear that. Because your name is on the lease and his is not, technically YOU are responsible for the damage. It is NOT fair, I know…….but that is the law.
And the law has the right to tear a place up if they can prove drugs were on him and if they found any in the home. If they tear it up and find NOTHING – nothing on him and nothing in the home – and they just “suspected” it……..then you can go after them for the cost of repairs. However this involves paying for an attorney. Some may do it for free and include their costs in the lawsuit against the police (they will take a chunk of your judgement award). Usually they will only do this if they know they can win your case.
As for the boyfriend, I know you are shocked but these other people are right, it is time to move on. You don’t deserve what he has brought to your doorstep.
As for paying rent…..contact your local dept of welfare and ask for emergency assistance, go down to the office, bring your paystubs and dr license, and explain your situation. Most likely they will approve you for funds to get you on your feet until you can get a new roomate or a new apt.
Make sure you tell the landlord that you knew NOTHING about this and that you are trying to work out the rent issue with the DPW.
If you avoid the landlord or the rent issue, it will only makes things worse, if he knows you’re the victim here he may have sympathy for you and be forgiving for a month or two. But make sure you at least try to get the emergency funds so you’re not in an even bigger hole than you are now ;-)
Good luck hon!
First off, your boyfriend doesn’t become a major drug dealer from “hanging out with the wrong crowd the last year.” He’s been involved in this for a while and you had to have known about if not involved yourself. So you’ll get no sympathy from anyone here but other drug users. Second, the fact that you’re knocked up from this loser is no surprise. How long before you’re living off my taxes?