Mom is an alcoholic, and her addiction has greatly affected our relationship. How can I help fix this problem? I live close to Beacon Falls, Connecticut.
Any help from you would go a long way.
Mom is an alcoholic, and her addiction has greatly affected our relationship. How can I help fix this problem?
If you live in the same house hide the alcohol.
Stop the problem at the source.
try to understand why she is so alcoholic, share her problems. and try to slove them with her. and do some sports with her together. that may be helpful.
Look into finding substance addiction rehab clinics in or close to your area. Use the resource sites centered on your city and state. Check into free help on how to help an addiction patient.
You cant.
Al anon
join her. if she scolds u for drinking, then give her a deal- stop so you’ll stop. if she doesn’t, let’s drink to that!
WELL AS I HAVE TOLD OTHERS MOM HAS TO BE READY TO QUIT B4 IT WILL HELP
Look in the phone book and call Alanon You cannot “fix the alcoholic”
Go to the meetings, get yourself a sponsor and work the 12 steps — it will change your life
Alanon is a private group who are relatives or friends of alcoholics whether they are drinking or sober
It is a sister group to AA which saved my life over 30 yrs ago
she is your mom, get the reason why she is so alcoholic,try to come out her if she is having problem. freindly behave with her,let her think you cares for her.and do care her.
oh man that is a tough one. first of all her addiction like any other is a disease. it is hers and hers alone. you cant hide her booze or judge her it sounds like you really love her so talk to her, when the time is right. get some advice on the phone or otherwise from AA or councilors or family. dont leave it , tell her how you feel.
i wish i knew what to say or tell you to do. my mom had the same problem. i had to move back home over the summer when me and my boyfriend broke up. she wouldnt work and would go to the bar every night. me and my brother paid all the bills and supported her. eventually she took our rent money and blew it all. she got evicted out of her house and had to file bankruptcy. me and my brother had to leave her and get our own places without her. she had to fall on her face before she realised she had a problem. she only drinks at home on occasion now. my brother wont allow him to see his son when she is drinking. i dont go to her place when she drinks. we both made this clear to her and she doesnt even ask now for us to be there when she drinks. we threatened everything when we lived with her and nothing worked. she would get angry if we hid alcohol. she would get violent if we hid her car keys. she didnt care if we threatened to call the cops if she drove. she often rang up bar tabs and we would have to pay them off to get her. she all sorts of crazy things. our only option was to leave. she refused treatment and there was nothing we could do at that point.
now shes working and living in an appartment alone. shes doing much better. but it took over a year to get this way after we moved out.
Well,if you care about her,just try to talk…
Pray for her too,because the power of a prayer is abig thing….
well,if your saying is not enough,try to limit her money to buy alcohols….
I’m afraid if you’re too late,she is ‘walking’ to the next step,drugs……
I can only repeat an answer I gave to a similar question.
How you deal with this will depend on your age. The fact is that there is nothing you can do for your mother if she herself does not want to stop drinking. Both my parents and their subsequent partners were alcoholics and all I ever got from it was grief, aggression and other ****.
If you are a minor your best bet is to live elsewhere where you can just get on with becoming the person you are meant to be. Child protection services may be able to help you in that regard,. I know that sounds harsh but I just know all I lived through. Its not healthy.
If you are older, still move out. If you can point your mum in the direction of help, great. But my mum drank from within 30mins from when she woke up until she collapsed somewhere at night, and she never thought she had a drinking problem. The others were all the same. I have the scars of what they did to me. Only they can help themselves and in my experience they don’t want too. sorry to be so negative, but I think I am also correct.
Be safe, be sage
First of all she is lucky to have you, that you care. To be honest she has to admit it first, but what i would do, i would go to Alcoholic Anonymous meeting myself and ask them which is the best way of handling the problem, you never know she might go to the next meeting with you.Hang in there.
You can’t cure an alcoholic , she has to help herself !
You also need to help yourself , call alanon or alateen for help
You can find both in Ct. , I live in ct. and was a drug and alcohol counselor … in the before time
Good Luck!