Started seeing a “normie” and mentioned to him that I don’t drink. How long before I tell him that I am a recovering alcoholic. BTW, I have over a year of sobriety.
just tell him and it shouldnt matter if u have one year of sobriety already
tell him on your next date and if he has a problem with that then it’s better to know earlier
There’s nothing wrong with saying you’re recovering. It’s something to be proud of. But don’t just come out of left field and say it, just tell him if it comes up in normal conversation. Like, if he offers you a drink, then is the right time to tell him.
.You can wait until it starts to get serious (when you two are considering being exclusive) or until he asks questions about why you don’t drink. If you’ve mentioned that you don’t drink and he’s still seeing you then that part is not likely an issue…he may or may not have any hangups about your past and that as an alcoholic it’ll be something you deal with daily the rest of your life.
It’s quite a personal issue but definitely one that should be addressed before you get TOO serious with someone. They have the right to decide if that’s something about you they can accept or not.
Honey, the minute you start using terms like “normie” to describe someone who isn’t in the program, you have basically doomed your relationship. The man is not a “normie”. He is a PERSON. The fact that he is not a member of alcoholics anonymous does not mean that he is less than you, that he can never understand you, or any of the other absolute BS they tell you in AA.
Think about it: he already knows you don’t drink, so what you’re really worried about isn’t telling him that you abstain from alcohol, it’s that you are a “recovering alcoholic” and a member of AA, that you go to meetings all the time, that you have a sponsor and that sponsor is going to be privy to every single disagreement the two of you might have.
It might be better for you to start thinking through how much of your self-identity you put into being a “recovering alcoholic” and how much you put into being who you really are.
nothing wrong of saying u was a alcoholic… if ur recovering with it then good for he will think that too
after the first date disclose disclose disclose
just tell him and it shouldnt matter if u have one year of sobriety already
tell him on your next date and if he has a problem with that then it’s better to know earlier
There’s nothing wrong with saying you’re recovering. It’s something to be proud of. But don’t just come out of left field and say it, just tell him if it comes up in normal conversation. Like, if he offers you a drink, then is the right time to tell him.
.You can wait until it starts to get serious (when you two are considering being exclusive) or until he asks questions about why you don’t drink. If you’ve mentioned that you don’t drink and he’s still seeing you then that part is not likely an issue…he may or may not have any hangups about your past and that as an alcoholic it’ll be something you deal with daily the rest of your life.
It’s quite a personal issue but definitely one that should be addressed before you get TOO serious with someone. They have the right to decide if that’s something about you they can accept or not.
nothing wrong whit that specially when you are trying to kick the bad habit just tell him be honest
Honey, the minute you start using terms like “normie” to describe someone who isn’t in the program, you have basically doomed your relationship. The man is not a “normie”. He is a PERSON. The fact that he is not a member of alcoholics anonymous does not mean that he is less than you, that he can never understand you, or any of the other absolute BS they tell you in AA.
Think about it: he already knows you don’t drink, so what you’re really worried about isn’t telling him that you abstain from alcohol, it’s that you are a “recovering alcoholic” and a member of AA, that you go to meetings all the time, that you have a sponsor and that sponsor is going to be privy to every single disagreement the two of you might have.
It might be better for you to start thinking through how much of your self-identity you put into being a “recovering alcoholic” and how much you put into being who you really are.