Me n my sister had a alcoholic dad. We didnt care but we where young. Havnt seen him since like age 10 cause hes phycotic. If I was still living with him when I was a teen I wouldn’t care as long as he would let me drink cause I inharated being a alcoholic its liek genedic. If a parent or both parents where alcoholics the kids normaly are to when they get older. .
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My father is a recovering alcoholic. My whole childhood I remember him being drunk. At 10 years old, I would take care of him if he got drunk while my mother was at work or not there for any reason. It was very hard. You feel like they don’t even care enough about you to be there for you. But the reality is there is something wrong with him. Something he can’t sort out or deal with so they leave reality. (In my case anyway) I am now 21 and have my own family. I don’t understand how a person could separate themselves and hurt their family like that, but they aren’t bad people, they need help. I actually asked my father the other day about a childhood memory I had. He told me that he didn’t remember much of me or my brothers’ childhood. That statement brought me to tears. Talk to your dad. Tell him what it is doing. You will regret it if you don’t. Me and my father don’t have a very close relationship because I never got to know him. I do thank God though that he stopped in time to be a papaw. And he is a GREAT person. He just needed help. he went to AA. They helped so much. You can look up Al-anon. It is for the family of alcoholics. There should be more information there. I do hope this helps, just don’t ignore it. It won’t just go away. And my dad wasn’t a very emotional person, but if your father is any kind of person he should care if he is hurting you the way my father hurt me. Just don’t talk to him while he is still drunk. I really hope this helped and if you need anyone to talk to..(I know I don’t know you, but i know what you are going through and everyone needs someone) My email is starrchild@aol.com. Good luck.
Both my parents are alcoholics, recovering, don’t drink anymore, but are still alcoholics. I took care of them during my teenage years, when I was supposed to have been partying, having fun with my friends…no…I was cooking for them, cleaning their mess, driving them places (when I didn’t even have a driver’s license yet). I moved out very young, got married, went to school, had a baby and promised God I would NEVER do to my baby what my parents did to me. I don’t drink and I don’t smoke, either. I do like to have fun, to dance, etc. But it’s up to you what you do with your life. It would be easy to blame my alcoholic parents for my mistakes, but that is BS. You decide what you want to do with your life. You learn from the bad as well as from the good, and you use it to your advantage. I don’t hold any grudge against my parents. I know they loved me, but didn’t know any better.
My dad is an alcoholic and has been my entire life. His wife (my Mom) left him, his friends that I remember left him, my brother doesn’t really give him the time of day, and my relationship with him has gone down hill. He’s not a violent or angry drunk, but he is a drunk nonetheless, and it’s embarrassing and has done nothing but ruin his life, yet he still drinks despite all of this.
It’s frustrating to see someone you love do this to themselves. You can try talking to him to see if he is willing to get help, but in my experience there is nothing you can do if they aren’t willing to change themselves. I tried talking to him as a mature adult, I tried dumping out his liquor, I’ve had arguments with him, I’ve told him not to talk to me when he drinks, but nothing seems to work. You need to understand that alcoholics are selfish because they don’t care about anyone but themselves. That is the unfortunate reality, and don’t forget, if they tell you that they are going to change, ACTION speaks louder than words.
I’m sorry this is effecting your life. Please know that you are not alone, and make sure that your life does not follow the same path has your fathers.
Me n my sister had a alcoholic dad. We didnt care but we where young. Havnt seen him since like age 10 cause hes phycotic. If I was still living with him when I was a teen I wouldn’t care as long as he would let me drink cause I inharated being a alcoholic its liek genedic. If a parent or both parents where alcoholics the kids normaly are to when they get older. .
********************LONG ANSWER ALERT********************(lol)
My father is a recovering alcoholic. My whole childhood I remember him being drunk. At 10 years old, I would take care of him if he got drunk while my mother was at work or not there for any reason. It was very hard. You feel like they don’t even care enough about you to be there for you. But the reality is there is something wrong with him. Something he can’t sort out or deal with so they leave reality. (In my case anyway) I am now 21 and have my own family. I don’t understand how a person could separate themselves and hurt their family like that, but they aren’t bad people, they need help. I actually asked my father the other day about a childhood memory I had. He told me that he didn’t remember much of me or my brothers’ childhood. That statement brought me to tears. Talk to your dad. Tell him what it is doing. You will regret it if you don’t. Me and my father don’t have a very close relationship because I never got to know him. I do thank God though that he stopped in time to be a papaw. And he is a GREAT person. He just needed help. he went to AA. They helped so much. You can look up Al-anon. It is for the family of alcoholics. There should be more information there. I do hope this helps, just don’t ignore it. It won’t just go away. And my dad wasn’t a very emotional person, but if your father is any kind of person he should care if he is hurting you the way my father hurt me. Just don’t talk to him while he is still drunk. I really hope this helped and if you need anyone to talk to..(I know I don’t know you, but i know what you are going through and everyone needs someone) My email is starrchild@aol.com. Good luck.
Both my parents are alcoholics, recovering, don’t drink anymore, but are still alcoholics. I took care of them during my teenage years, when I was supposed to have been partying, having fun with my friends…no…I was cooking for them, cleaning their mess, driving them places (when I didn’t even have a driver’s license yet). I moved out very young, got married, went to school, had a baby and promised God I would NEVER do to my baby what my parents did to me. I don’t drink and I don’t smoke, either. I do like to have fun, to dance, etc. But it’s up to you what you do with your life. It would be easy to blame my alcoholic parents for my mistakes, but that is BS. You decide what you want to do with your life. You learn from the bad as well as from the good, and you use it to your advantage. I don’t hold any grudge against my parents. I know they loved me, but didn’t know any better.
My dad is an alcoholic and has been my entire life. His wife (my Mom) left him, his friends that I remember left him, my brother doesn’t really give him the time of day, and my relationship with him has gone down hill. He’s not a violent or angry drunk, but he is a drunk nonetheless, and it’s embarrassing and has done nothing but ruin his life, yet he still drinks despite all of this.
It’s frustrating to see someone you love do this to themselves. You can try talking to him to see if he is willing to get help, but in my experience there is nothing you can do if they aren’t willing to change themselves. I tried talking to him as a mature adult, I tried dumping out his liquor, I’ve had arguments with him, I’ve told him not to talk to me when he drinks, but nothing seems to work. You need to understand that alcoholics are selfish because they don’t care about anyone but themselves. That is the unfortunate reality, and don’t forget, if they tell you that they are going to change, ACTION speaks louder than words.
I’m sorry this is effecting your life. Please know that you are not alone, and make sure that your life does not follow the same path has your fathers.
Take care and good luck.
may God bless and keep you always
in his guide