Question by Med Emergency: Parents supplying alcohol in underage drinking parties in their homes…?
I live in the Chicago area and in the news, a couple was found guilty in supplying alcohol at a party in their home for their teenager. They have not been sentenced yet and their own son testified against them. Well, 2 or 3 teens were killed in a car accident after the party. I am just wondering when are we as parents going to start being parents and stop trying to be friends to our children. I was also wondering about your opinion of the situation.
One last thing, one of the teens involved in the accident where teens died of underaged drinking was involved in another accident last week where someone was driving drunk…When will she learn?
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Teenagers will not listen if you give long lectures. They like it short and sweet. (trust me.)
You should be friends with your kid but being friends with your kid doesnt mean supplying alcohol for them.
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they will wake up when their son drives around drunk and kills himself…letting kids drink,leads to drinking,and it’s illegal to give alcohol to minors…
You know, the problem with parents and their children is exactly that…
Parents look at all of the rules that their “old fashion” parents had on them and will foolishly conclude that they wont be that way to their children failing to realize that the same thing they are ridiculing is what saved them.
Kids may not listen to long lectures but when influence is greater than words that is when a parent has to do the right thing. Dont supply alcohol, dont give in to back talk, stick to the punishments and demand nothing less than the respect that is deserved.
I say all the time, I am my childs mother. Mother can be a friend at the right and appropriate time but when it comes down to it, I am their mother. Period.
Parents are parents. Kids have friends for a reason and parents should not fill that spot. Some parents think its ok to buy alcohol for there kids and have them drink at home with them that way they aren’t doing behind there backs and can keep an eye on them. Thats still illegal and morally wrong. They will just grow up thinking that its ok to drink and thats what they will instill in there children and i’m sure they’ll but it for them too. It’s a vicious cycle. Thats my opinon. And this girl will never learn. You’d think the first one would have affected her but obviously she’s to big of an idiot for that. She’ll keep being stupid until she dies or kills someone i sure.
I have never once been concerned about being a “friend” to my nephews(16&17), my own daughter(14), SD(7), or son(14 months). I feel until they are out of my home and on their own I am their parent I am to be a role model not a friend. And if in the process of being their parent there are times they “hate” me or their feelings get hurt OH WELL.
On a side note back in 1994 when my daughter was 18 months old we were riding in a car at about 1030pm down in Lousiana and were hit by a teenaged drunk driver at 70mph as we proceeded through an intersection when our light turned green. He did not have head lights on and we did not see him coming. As a result of that accident I woke up to Dr’s saying to me “your daughter has suffered a massive brain injury it is our opinion that we allow nature to take its course” meaning they wanted me to sign papers for them to stop medical intervention which I would not do. Now at age 14 due to her brain injury and “diseases progression” she became vent dependant(though her breaths are all on her own she needs the pressure to open her left lower lobe she is also mentally a 2-6 month old) and is considered terminally ill. I strongly believe that if a parent or other adult supplies alcohol to any person not legally able to purchase alcohol or if it is served to a person that is already intoxicated then the server/buyer should be held just as accountable as the person that got behind the wheel.
Thats my opinion my life changed due to a drunk driver and all my hopes and dreams for my daughter were shattered that night. They all need to go straight to hell wearing gasoline panties.
Teens have a lot of friends but few parents. They learn by example, and that is the primary job of parents: modeling good citizenship and mature responsibility.
well i have a different opinion…maybe its bc im not a parent yet..but anyway, i think allowing your kids to drink in your house is ok. as long as youre not providing the alcohol, its not a party, and you dont let anyone drive home. i think that if you dont let them drink at home theyll drink somewhere else and have to drive home for curfew..if theyre at home theyre safer.
I have wondered about this very issue I had a neighbor that had a party when the kids got out of schhol for their teen and supplied them a keg. They did take keys away and not let them drink but hello you dont give underage kids alchol. what is sad is becasue one of the parents works as a ambulance driver and surely has seen a accident in one of these fatal incidents.
By allowing thier kids to drink rather they take keys or not just gives permission to these teenagersand reinforces that it is okay to do it and then they go to another kids house the next week and their parents are no where a round and boom they are drinking and what the hell i am okay to drive and you see them on the news dead, or killing someone innocent.
Wake up parents it is never okay to give a child a drink under no cicumstance rather you take keys or not !!!!
She will proably not learn untill it kills her.
We can be friends to our children by setting firm limits on behavior and when those limits are pushed showing them we mean business as to what behaviors that we are going to accept and ones we arent and making them accountable for thier actions, no matter what they do.
The parents need to be convicted of manslaughter! They won’t learn, they would rather be friends and its just so wrong, if they want friends then they need not be parents at all, they just need a very harsh sentience. Things like this just outrage me.
Kids do not need alcohol to have fun or for any other reason.
Alcohol doesn’t do anything good for them so I hope those parents rot in the jail and loose all they have.
Stupid people.
The kids are going to drink anyway, so why not let them have a few under supervision rather than out on the street where they could get hit by a car or something?
The basic issue with the parents are their lazyness to take of the kids. Following are the usual excuses they say to escape from their responsibilities.
1. Children now a days a matured enough to understand and take care of them
2. Children need to adopt to the modern world and this is not wrong.
3. What if they do mistake in our absence? Instead let them do it in front of us so that they stay in limits.
4. Children to be treated as friends and Equally. So let them do what ever the elders do.
5. Children to be given freedom to do what ever they feel to do.
AND SO ON…….
This is really very wrong thinking. Parents should not try to escape from their responsibilities of making a good child. Yes it is hard to handle kids at time, but it is really sweet when you see your kids (once they grow up) gets greeted by the world for their acheivements and behaviour. Parents try to avoid responsibilities when they really can handle and finally end up hearing their grown up kids are in trouble.
I just do not charge the parents who feed drinks to their kids but also who give redundant money / freedom to the kids than what a kid realy deserve for. Also it is the ultimate duty for any parents to keep an eye on their kids.
To be frank, now a days, parents are burried in “so called” issues like, husband – wife conflicts, financial hunt, spending more time out side home / away from kids, and so on. Whats the use in making all the savings and winning a fight against spouse, but finally failing in children rearing? Once you have a child, the mother and father should focus on the child than anything else in their life. Afterall parents made the children and a child is a product of a couple of people. When we thrive hard to market a product produced in your company, it is more responsible to parents to market (make the children perfectly fit to a good world) the children to the world.
Parents not only to understand their responsibilities but to work towards their kids will improve the situation globaly. When I mean kids, till parents are alive a son or a daughter is kid for the parents. No age bar.
well…
im 17…
and i go to tons of parties… i’ve only been to one party where the parents gave us liqs… and no one drove themself home…
usually its BYOB tho and if you dont have yours, everyone will give you a sip of theirs and you’ll get smashed too haha…
well, now that i drive… let me say, driving drunk is F’CKED UP! i dont drink and drive often… the worst time tho was when i was too drunk to walk, so i drove instead… and i was aparently driving down residential streets doing like 120 swerving all over the place… i cant remember that tho…
she prolly wont learn… like i totally am losing my lisence for driving high… and i still do it… im waiting to hear back from the gov on when im losing it and for how long… and i still drive baked all the time… cuz i know im not a hazard on the roads… i drive safe when high… safer than normal…
i dunno… drinkin n driving is bad… its stupid… i’ve seen too many of my friends get seriously f’cked up from driving drunk… i’ve seen one friend alone put his car in a ditch, put his car thru a house, drive down the wrong side of the highway, get in a head on collision… i dunno… stupid sh’t like that…
i’m still looking for your question… its sorta hard to find considering there isnt one… unless your question is “when will she learn?” in which case no one knows the answer to it… or if your question is “Parents supplying alcohol in underage drinking parties in their homes…?” then you might wanna go back to school and take an english course because thats actually a fragment of a sentance and there is no question at all there… so its difficult to answer a question when there isnt one… anyways i did the best i could…
As a mother myself, I WOULD NOT supply booze of any kind to my son or his friends. I wouldn’t be a good mother if I did that. THATS VERY WRONG, no parent should EVER do that.