Question by Rick K: Whats worst being addicted to perscription narcotics or having an affair?
I kept a drug problem from my wife for over a year never arrested never lost job and still was a good father and husband . but im not trying to cover up the fact that what i did was wrong because i truely regret it. But my wife is blameing my past drug addiction that i have been freed from for over 90 days for her affair that she had with her parents neighbor and friend who was a groomsmen in her brothers weddings just like me.
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Answer by kidadventure
Lying to one another.
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your drug problem is worse
two wrongs do not make a right.
I think either of you placing blame at this point is useless. It seems hurtful to weigh one transgression against the other. Would you both consider couples counseling? If that’s an option, I would go for that. Good luck.
having an affair is easier to quit lol
being addicted to drugs is the worst b/c you will never be able to change it when you are addicted to them, but when you have an affair, you can change real quick when you love the person dearly. I have never has an affair or been addicated to drugs but i know someone who has. And sometimes you can go get help for both which is really good, but drugs are the worst, sometimes, if you have a good friend they can get you good help for addiction just like the TV show intervention and you can get help for affairs like at counseling. Like i said drugs are the worst dont ever use them and tell your friends not to ever use them either.
Good luck with love XOXOGiggles
well in my opinion i would say the affair is worse because even though it is hard recovering from an addiction it is even harder for the heart to heal.with drugs there is help out there and you can quit with support and help. with affairs sometimes there really is nothing to mend what is done. i can understand where she is coming from she just feels betrayed and i am certainly not condoning her affair but she probably was hurt and wanted to hurt you. i am sorry i feel for you.
they equal the same!!!!!!!
i have to say that having an affair has to be much worse, but i would like to say this……are you sure that your addiction didnt really affect the person you were? i was an addict for a long time and didnt think i was so different, but when i talked to people who were around me at that time in my life, i was different. i think both of you were wrong, but addiction can be overcome, and affair is breaking a promise. i’ve been cheated on, and i know the feeling. i’d rather go through my withdrawl again. but i would say some counseling might be good, because there seems to be something else there. good luck, hope all turns out well.
I am going to say this even though it might sound crazy. Spirits never travel alone! When you let these things into your life and not acknowledge them before the Lord Jesus so that he may deliver you other stuff come along with it. Lies, cheating, sex outside the marriage, and so forth. I was blind to these things before I gave my life to the Lord. I am now able to see the importance of the truth. But God is so good that he can and will forgive you. He can also put your life back together if you ask him to. Believe me I know!
I’m not saying forget the past, but maybe you guys could come to some sort of agreement. The past is the past for a reason, just get rid of all the shame and regret and live your life for now. Start fresh, if she’s willing.
Whatever program you are working, keep working it. What you have done to your family will take time to fix, if you can. While you don’t seem to think your drug addiction caused you to neglect your wife, obviously you are wrong. While that isn’t an excuse, what she should have done is divorced you and then got involved with someone who cares more about her than he does himself and his drugs. You can’t control anyone else’s behavior but you can control yours.
I guess it would be worse if she cheated and was also on drugs, or you cheated and were on drugs. You deserve each other!
You can replace spouses but you can’t replace your life. Some people may recover from infidelity but many can not recover from drugs.
If you are addicted to prescription drugs, you are hurting yourself physically. If you are having an affair, you could contract a STD that would hurt the person you are cheating on. Only you know how you got addicted to those drugs, you have no one to blame but yourself. At the same time your wife made the decision to have her affair and she has no one to blame but herself. You both have to remember one simple rule “when you point your finger at someone, you have three pointing back at you.” You and your wife need to wipe the slate clean and get it back together.
You’re in a tuff spot, buddy.
You need to take a good look at what you’ve done and
come to terms with the consequences.
I don’t pretend to know all the particulars of the situation,
I’m just guessing here.
You betrayed her trust in you. While you were making
love to your addiction, she was miserable and lonely.
I don’t think it was right for her to have an affair becuase
of it either. So now there’s enough blame to go around.
Niether of you has the high ground to speak from.
You need to asses the damage that has occured to
your relationship and maybe implement some kind of
damage control. Stop it from getting any worse.
Start by having a heart to heart conversation and find
out if there’s any trust and loyalty left towards one an
other. Love can only survive if it has both. You need to
be able to forgive one an other. Just remember that if
you’re both willing to forgive yourselves for what you’ve
done, you can never, ever bring up the subject again!
You both need a serious attitude ajustment here!!
Maybe then you’ll grow up and appreciate yourselves
for what you almost lost. Get going!!!
First, drugs are very bad.
Second, there should not be any secrets from a spouse.
Third and most importantly, the only person responsible for cheating is the person cheating.