Question by Ren: I am five months pregnant and my husband is in rehab for meth. I love him and believe he is a great guy when?
he’s sober, but his meth use has ruined my trust in him. He started buying lots of porn even though he knew it hurt my feelings. He went to bars and lied all the time. He became someone I hated. He went to a co-ed rehab and I cry every night because I think he’ll cheat on me, even though he says he never has. I’m glad he’s getting help, but I never thought this would be my life. I know I’m hormonal, but sometimes I just want to call it quits. His family has money and he threatens that if I get a divorce they will get a great lawyer and he’ll get custody of our 2 year old and new baby. I’m lost and insecure and I just want some support, I guess.
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Answer by Vegas girl
that a$$! ugh well he is getting help I guess that’s a good step
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If you decide on a divorce he will not get your children. No judge is going to turn children over to a meth head. I don’t care if his parents own the world. What you do is up to you but I would be getting out. This guy is not a good guy and if he is making these kinds of threats from treatment it probably isn[t doing to much good. The chances are very high that he will use again. I wish you luck
You’ve committed to stay with him and he in turn is seeking treatment for drugs so why not let time figure out if he can be the person you want him to be or not? You’re emotional I understand but give the treatment a chance first. If he relapses you need to be unwavering in leaving him and taking the children. There is no court that would allow a known addict to raise 2 children so think positive and give it a chance first.
first you don’t need to be with a guy that uses, or treats you that way, second if you leave (and I hope you do) then he will have to prove in court that you are an unfit mother, third if you have a lawyer then he can bring up why you would be the better parent and can also mention the use of drugs, the rehab, and the lies, and if you have caught him in lies already chances are that he is lying to you about cheating, you have to think of yourself and your children, and most likely after he gets out of rehab he make go back to is old habits, get out while you can and don’t tell him just leave go to a family member, friend, or even a womans shelter
good luck
First off forget the money and worries about custody.
WHAT JUDGE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD GIVE A METH USER CUSTODY OF A CHILD??????
you have proof of his addiction, and paper’s from the rehab.
Call it quits. save up as much as you can and file for divorce.
File for full rights for the kids at the same time too.
He is unstable, unsafe for them to be around.
Once an addict always and addict.
Meth is a hard drug for people to quit, and stay clean.
Good luck to you and your children.
They are the ones that are really suffering at the cost of a high.
he will never ever, not in a million years get any custody on anything cos he is a drug addict. by the time he is completely clear and sober both of your children will be 18 and decide for themselves with whom they live.
even with a great lawyer its highly unlikely he would get custody, with that being said dont be afraid to leave him, but also i think you might just have to wait til he comes home until you can see how he will act and if he has changed and if he wants to be there for you.
Start looking after you an your babies = get to doctor and ask for help Use time to develop your own strength and esteem.
Do U call him a “Great guy”?
baby girl,i am proud of u both!!Seems like u have both been working hard, just know i am proud that yall r working together.
First, they can’t take the baby away from you just because they have money. Considering that your husband has been in rehab for meth, no judge in his right mind would do that.
Second, does his family know about his drug use? If not, now’s the time to tell them.
Lots of addicts are “great guys” when they’re sober, but that hardly matters when they’re always high. You need to consider what’s best for the babies. Will he be a good father, or will his behavior endanger them (or you)?
I would try finding a support group or advocacy group for women in your situation. They might be able to give better advise, and hook you up with a lawyer who can advise you.
If you really think that some judge is going to give a meth-head custody of a two year old and newborn baby, you are more than insecure, you may be delusional. Why would you have a baby with someone like this? People don’t just turn into meth heads. You have to decide if this is how you want to live the rest of your life honey! You know if he uses drugs you can get your children taken from you?