Question by jasMINe: HELP me sort these emotion and should i go to counseling?
she ruined my life. she used to be overprotected and extremeling overbearing. I was her only child. She made me get married at an early age when i was 16.
I was abused to death by this man. and was put into child protective care. i called her to come and pick me up. and instead of saving me, she sent me right back to my husbands home. in which i endured daily abuse, he was a meth user.
my mom told me that once i was married, that was it. i can never turn back, because this will ruined my family’s name, it will disgrace my parent. and i will be a whore for the rest of my life. so i stayed and stayed…even though i couldnt see a point to it anymore.
she told me that the only way i can change my marriage at the time was to have a child with him. She made everyone brainwash me to thinking that was my only solution.
so then i had a child, and realized it was never true. things never got better. it was worst.
only this time i had no other choice but to leave, because i have a child and i didnt want it to effect him.
when i moved back to live with my mother. she keep me in the house. and verbally abused me. telling me that i was worthless, a disgrace etc. and i was SENTENCED TO A LIFE TIME OF HUMILATION.
i had my son with me, and it always seemed to make the situation worst. i feel so low in life and with my son it had added more to my stress. I hated how the community looked down on me because i was single mother and young.
his father wasnt in his life either. and I nerver recieved a penny from child support. he doesnt call. he doesnt remember birthdays, sent him anything for christmas.
I hated my life. When i think about all this, it still makes me cry even though its been over 10 years now, and my son is 11.
I LOVE MY SON TO DEATH, BUT SOMETIMES WHEN I SEE HIS FATHERS FACE IN HIM, I CRY. I GET SCARED. I REGRET HAVING HIM, OR ILL JUST BE REALLY MEAN TO HIM SOME WHEN HE ACTS CARELESS LIKE HIS FATHER. ECT….
I HATE MY MOTHER STILL BECAUE SHE CONTROLLED ME AND RUINED MY LIFE. IT STILL EFFECT ME EVEN TO THIS DAY.
even though try to look beyond everything and still is in her life.
I know that i cant change the past but how can i move on with my life and accept everything and not feel like this?? Should i go to see a couselor, therapy?
–sorry for misspelled word ect…i have to go to work…
Best answer:
Answer by Chalie2na
I didnt read all of that, but you should get counseling.
Give your answer to this question below!
Grow a backbone. You need to be a strong, independent women and stick up for yourself. There are a lot of single mothers in this world, and trust me when I say, people aren’t looking down on you.
Your mother is very old fashioned and the way she is treating you is cold and abusive.
You have a child and you need to stick up for him.
Go to court and make that bastard support you and your child. You can get an order for money to legally be taken from his paychecks to not only give you child support for now, but to pay back child support for the ten years he’s missed already.
You need to get yourself some counceling, get a good job, get away from your mother and don’t let anyone treat you this way
The child is innocent and so do you. If you feel that things are unfair, speak up once in a while. So what if you already know how’s the outcome is going to be like? You ought to do something for yourself. You should be proud of yourself and FRANKLY SPEAKING, you are NOT A DISGRACE AT ALL. In fact, if you actually stood up for yourself, you are already taking one step forward to your happiness and freedom, an act of courage that not many has it!
You don’t have to visit the cousellor! You got to do things on your own! FIGHT FOR YOURSELF. I believe everyone will be behind your back supporting you! :)