Question by Cinderelle: Why he did so ? what was in his mind? Please guide me if I reacted wrong with him ?
my fiancée an addict from 10 years I discovered after our engagement and I went with him to ( N A ) Narcotics Anonymous is an international, community-based association of recovering drug addicts and he’s in recovery and made 5 month now (you can’t all imagine the effort I did with him to pass his first steps) he was doing great and his supervisor was so happy from his result and suddenly he relapsed two days ago and he refused to back again to the (Na) and his supervisor called in the morning to come to his house to convince him to restart again, once he saw me he fall down with non stop crying at after talking to him I told him that he betrayed my trust and he’s the one who choose to leave me not me, and I told him I will ask you one thing before I leave your life, go again to (NA) and start over.
At the end he agree to go with them but he keep crying with holding my hand don’t want me to go away from him.. we all shocked from the way he act as he’s very strong person.
Best answer:
Answer by Palmilla
First the key to your long paragraph is HIS… this is his problem. If you have been to NA you found out that you did not create this problem, but can hurt him by shielding his behaviors and not letting him accept HIS BEHAVIOR.
Ask yourself is this what you want to cope with the rest of your life? Put your children through?
Write down all the things that you want to do with your life… then lite a match to it.. and that’s what your life will be like.
Its funny that he waited until you were engaged before he told you. When you accepted his proposal, you did not have all the facts to make a life long commitment.
RUN … DON’T STOP….. RUN JANE RUN….don’t look back
What do you think? Answer below!
What you did was right. You made the effort and helped him. You in a way are the victim. Maybe don’t kick him out of your life forever. Just take some time off from each other. maybe in like idk a month or two go to see his NA specialist. Ask if he has been attending and try to just slowly work back into each others life. It may not be the same though. It seems that you had a big in pack on his life in a good way so just try being his angel and help him. Hope I helped.=0)
Addiction is very powerful. He’s probley very scared, he will need alot of support, no matter how strong a person he is. He wasn’t strong enough to overcome his addiction. You be care full that he doesn’t use his weakness to control you. Addicts are very good at control especially if they know you love them. Your in a difficult situation. Take care of yourself