Question by hotmommy09: Sick stepchildren and no one cares but me…help!?
I have two step children that have been puking and having diarrhea every time they visit for about the last two months. They visit every other week and are age 7 (boy) and 5 (girl).
I thought it was the flu at first but now im beginning to suspect its a pyschological problem which was even confirmed by their doc when i took them to be evaluated. The doc says they need counseling and that perhaps the arrangement is too overwhelming to them (the every other week). My husband and their mother do not think that anything is wrong with them and that they dont need any counseling..
The boy and girl were boy concieved while the mother was doing drugs. The boy was the only one born full term and normal. The girl was dropped in a toilet cuz the mother was strung out on meth…hello..i really think its possible that the girl for sure has problems. She put safety pins in my one year old sons (my husband and my kid together) play pen when i was at school and my husband was workin on a vehicle outside. Her older brother lied to me about seeing her do it too. The little girl also cut her hand with a razor while her father was outside. They both have pushed down their little brother too. I can understand jealousy..but the safety pins i just cant fathom.. I have shown love, sympathy, and support to these children since i have known them almost 3 years and ive been married to their father almost 2 years.
I have sanitized and cleaned my house inside and out and their things countless many of times. They eat healthy food and are not getting sick at their mothers…i just cant understand why this is happening other than they are stressing out and cant handle the living arrangement.
The seven year old puked in his bed just the other night and supposedly came to get me but i didnt hear him cuz he didnt come in the room and nudge me. I discovered him on the living room floor at 4 am covered in puke and laying face down on the pillow and floor bc i got up to change my sons diaper in the middle of the night. He didnt even take his shirt off…I just kindly explained that he needed to make sure that i was up next time.
If the parents wont agree that they need counseling and this keeps happening…What should I do?
yea i know i posted this a lot….i got some good advice and some nasty advice…seriously u must be on a lot and have nothing better to do to see how many times i have posted this…seriously…its called freedom of speech….
i am probably not going to post it anymore but thought id get a different set of people a different day..ya know…
ok but seriously how do i keep taking them to a doctor and expressing my concerns without them telling their mother maybe or coming up with other ways to do things to maybe manipulate us for attention..i dont know….it just seems bc they are so withdrawn and quiet..u just dont knwo whats in their heads…i dont mean to sound mean but they cant ever give a straight answer and most of the time they cry if u ask them about anything they did.
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Dejavu … how many times have you posted this? I count at least 9 … you received some excellent advice the other day … use it and move on.
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Well if they were told they need counseling and they wont take them than have daddy clean uo the puke next time and next time. Sooner or later he’ll get tired or sick of doing it. Don’t give in. This may be the only way dad will see that someting is wrong. Good luck
They are obviously suffering from emotional/mental issues surrounding their parents/this arrangement. Counseling is the way to go but since you are not legally their parent it will be hard to do. Id sit your husband down and tell him look.. this is for your kids.
This is really horrible! Too bad there isn’t anything you can do. Just keep talking to your husband everytime they vomit. I guess you can keep taking them to the doctor and maybe the doctor will get more involved. That would be the worst case senario but your hands are tied.
Call CPS and tell them that you are concern. Other then that there is counseling for the parents…. what else is there?
You took them to a doctor before, take them to another one for a second opinion and stress your concerns. I’m telling you that’s what I would do since the parents are not as concern as you are.
Sorry your going through this, it must be stressful feeling you have no power to help. But you do. Your their Mom too. Good Luck
Some people should not be parents. These kids have serious problems and their parents are neglectful of their needs. Reading just one paragraph on this website is enough to convince even a ‘meth head’ that there are problems.
http://www.stopmethaddiction.com/meth-babies.htm
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You have serious mental issues! Seek help, for yourself!
You keep changing the story, I think you are full of yourself. Yesterday the mother was an alcoholic, today she’s a meth head? YOU need serious mental help!