Question by Usa: I need to get my brother some help before it is too late.?
My brother, who is also one of my best friends, came to me not too long ago telling me he had been into meth for quite sometime and wants to quit. He confessed to me that the reason he was doing this was from being molested by an older (male) cousin and a man he is not sure who it was, when he was very little. He stated that the drugs help him forget, but it is starting to take over his life. He is a great writer, very smart, and only 19 years old. I don’t know exactly how to help him but he needs someone who maybe understands and has been through either recovering from meth or sexual abuse, that he can talk to. Does anyone know of a way to find a support group or of free counseling somewhere? I truly love my brother and don’t want to see him pass up great things in his life because of what some ignorant people did to him in his past.
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Answer by obtaybee
narcotics anonymous
he needs counseling in addition
you can reach MHMR in your county to get some direction
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i dont know the answer but i just wanted to say that you are so lucky to have that great relationship with him. If only me and my sis were best freinds….. But anyways, good luck getting him help through this rough time.
edit- I agree with going to narcotics anonymous
take him to rehab!! he may not want to go but its the best way to handle the situation. molestation is horrible and too many people keep it hidden and it leads to behavior such as this. go to someone he can trust like a church member or something and just let him talk without judgment or trying to tell him what to do. most of all pray for him and leave it to god he is always on your side and has had him go through this for a bigger purpose. encourage him to report the cousin that way no one else will ever have to go through what he is going through.
Go to any Hospital in your area… Walk into the front desk and ask for advice. They will either have a detox program or can give you the names, numbers and addresses of surrounding rehabilitation centers.
Don’t talk yourself out of it. Your bother will be pissed. It’s going to get worse before it gets better… But, if you love him… help him.
And pray…
if you brother truly wants to quit the first thing he has to do is quit hanging out with the people that do it. If that means finding new friends then so be it. as far as what happened to him when he was a kid if it is that bad that he needs to turn himself to drugs to forget about it he needs so serious counciling. I dont know where you can just get that kind of treatment for free but that would be the best choice.
Try looking in the yellow pages of your phone book under; counseling, rehabilitation services, or drug abuse. That way you won’t have to run all over the country. Someone out of these services should be able to point you in the right direction.
He is very lucky to have you. I hope the best for you both.
There are many centers for people who have been sexually abused. They have support groups. Google- ‘Sexual Abuse Healing Center’ and variations of that. They often have sliding scales, you pay what you can afford. Have him check out http://www.alicemiller.com and look at the reader’s mail. They are people learning to heal from childhood trauma. Alice Miller’s books are helpful, too.
there are sexual assault victim counseling services scattered throughout the US. they usually have toll free hotlines. what area are you in? you should definitely look up a sexual assault crisis center like this in your area and provide your brother with the number. he can call them to vent and they will listen empathically. they’ll probably also provide him with referrals for more qualified help. it can be really hard for a male to disclose the fact that he was raped since our culture values masculinity. sexual assault crisis centers are trained to help people with issues precisely like this. self-medication like your brother is displaying is a tendency amongst people suffering from rape trauma syndrome. meth in particular is the drug of choice for sexual assault victims. He can’t continue this way or he’ll regret what the drug has done/is doing to his body. good luck and i hope he gets the right help. be there for him all you can.