Question by Rosa: touchy subject / im a victim of a sexual crime……?
i currently live in portland oregon, but while i lived in sacramento, ca… my stepdad molested/raped me starting when i was 5 or 6 untill i was around 16 [pretty much 10 years] . it was pretty much an everyday thing except on the weekends… he would actually treat me like a daughter [but of course that was the crystal meth that made him like that] my mother was also a meth user but unaware of what was going on- she was always away or sleeping [her way of excaping the physical abuse he put her through everyday]
i moved to oregon Dec. 04, right before i turned 17. i kept it a secret to my family until Oct. 05 when i entered a psych ward. i went to counseling for 2 months and then gave up.
my stepfather, as far as i know still lives at the same address in sac town.
im 21 yrs old now. i’ve contacted the portland DA but since it happened in sacramento, they told me i have to contact the SAC PD.
everytime i start to do that it gets so overwhelming for me that i just give up. the pain is too much for me im just really tired on dwelling over my past. i want him to pay for what he did to me. im just scared that if i go on with the process that in the end he wouldnt be prosecuted because its been over 5 years since it last happened.
personaly i would rather like to find him, cut off his balls, and then put a bullet to his head….but no way am i being locked up for that fucker. i would like to see it the other way around. i just hope and pray that he hasnt tormented any other young lives the way he has fucked up mine.
can anybody help me with this?
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Answer by Kylemiser
If you do nothing he definitely wont be prosecuted, so you might as well try.
Good luck.
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Call the prosecutors office where it happened…..you will never forgive yourself if he ends up hurting someone else the way he hurt you because nothing was ever reported. It will be harder than you know to relive those things he did to you, but you will live a healthier life, and you may be saving another little girl from going through what you went through. good luck.
well, shooting him wouldnt exactly be the best solution
its okay to be angry but to do something that will ruin you even more than what he did to you is even worse
i have one solution
you look indian and im sure you live here in the States
look up WOMEN OF FAITH
it’s a conference and a big thing for women who have alot of hurt and needs something to help them
just look if up and if you find one that is near your home GO TO IT
it helped alot of women i know and it can probably help you
good luck
For a crime of this nature it doesn’t matter if it’s been five years or twenty years, the person can still be prosecuted for this.
The question is are you ready to go through with this process, it doesn’t seem like you are yet. You will have to go to court and testify and recount the abuse you suffered.
I suggest you go back to therapy as there is no shame in doing so, and it will help you gain the strength to confront this.
The main reason why you should pursue legal action against him is that if he could do this to you most every day for so many years, what’s going to stop him from doing it to someone else?
by stepping forward with this, you can prevent this same thing happening to someone else. I think that’s a totally legitimate reason to go to the police about this.
However, get help for yourself while you do so, you will need it as this is not an easy situation for anyone.
Good luck to you.
You have to report this guy . I’m sorry about what happened to you . You cannot allow him to do this to anyone else . There is statute of limitations on sex crimes against minors . I went to high school with a girl who was being molested by her dad . Nobody knew at the time . Years later she married a cop . She told him what happened . Her dad ended up getting 40 years in prison for what he did to her and her brother , even though 10 years had passed after the crimes .
I hope you get some counseling , you deserve to be able to move on . Turning him in would be the first step in getting over this and not carrying this shame around anymore . I wish you the best . Good luck .
I feel for you – I went through the same by an older cousin from the time I was about 3 until I put a stop to it at 15, and raped by a family “friend” when I was 14. I got pregnant, too – thank God my body rejected it! I got HPV. That and the memories, I can’t get rid of. Nobody in my family knows – only a few close friends, and my online support group.
I think you should try to prosecute him – isn’t it better to lose a battle, than give up without a fight?
YOU HAVE TO DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO GET OVER THIS.
For me, it meant accepting it wasn’t my fault. It meant learning I could still love and be loved; that I still owned my body and I owed nothing to anyone who said they loved me (I went through a lot of cocowash) if I didn’t love them.
It meant confessing to my long-time crush why I couldn’t let him touch me, and that if I’d had a choice my first time would’ve been with him (he didn’t care, but I still got it off me).
Martial arts helped me regain my confidence. I can go out and know that if anyone tries anything, they’re gonna have hell of a fight before them. God knows I’ll kill with my two bare hands before I let anyone touch me without my consent again.
You can’t give up. Whatever you do, you can’t give up. You owe it to yourself to rise above that bastard, and get on with your life. IN THE END, YOU DON’T WANT TO BE A VICTIM, BUT A SURVIVOR. You want to be the one who came up on top in spite of everything.
Good luck. Feel free to contact me if you want… There’s online support groups for this, too – they’ve helped me more than any psychologists.
Always keep going.
one thing….the law does not take into account how long it has been before filing a case………….and in this case sexual harrasement, i dont see a way by which that man could escape, with all the advancements in biological technologies to prove his crime……………BELIEVE ME ON THIS…………he would be behind the bars ,but you must have the confidence and courage to surge foreward………….just think about that jerk and all that he had done to you……….would you still let him roam the streets of a civilized world…!!!!???? if you dont file a case now think how many more young lives he is going to screw up………..REMEMBER : A PERSON WHO QUIETLY FACES THE BURDEN OF SINS UPON HIM / HER WITHOUT ANY RETALIATION IS A BIGGER SINNER THAN THE PERSON INFLICTING SINS…………..c’mon now…..this is your time to retaliate or you will foreever live the rest of your life with a sence of guilt