Question by LinZ: Emotional Abuse… Can you help me help myself?
Hi. im 15 and i need some help. First, can you tell me where you’d draw the line between harsh parenting and emotional/ verbal abuse? And can you tell me where i can get help getting out of an abusive household along with my sister?
heres a little insight into my situation…
i live in a single parent house with my 9yr old sister. My dad yells at us every day about everything and nothing, and there’s nothing we can do to stop it. We do our best not to provoke him, but its no use. He will scream and yell at us until we’re crying and then threatens us if we cry. He calls me useless and lazy and ungrateful. When i do chores, he tells me that im incapable of doing anything right. He’s threatened to hurt us on several occasions. Events like there and worse occur mutiply times daily. He also will find anything that gives us any form of happiness and either take it away or disallow it. He is also extremely manipulative.
Our mother is a meth addict with an abusive boyfriend, so we can not go and live with her. We cant stay with any other relatives. I can not call the police because he can friends in the police force and judicial system that will vouche for him, and when I try and fail, he could react violently. The odds of me getting emancipated are microscopic, since I’m not 16 yet and most likely won’t be able to support myself and my sister.
I honestly cant continue living like this. I cry everyday and am losing sight of why life is important…
Although, it may sound childish, but im scared of what will happen if i try and do anything about it. He’s always called me a drama queen and told me that my feelings are wrong… and what if he’s right? what if i call to get help, and the turn me away? or what if i get put in a group home? the idea o being stripped of everything i know is kinda scary. my school doesnt offer the best counseling and i do not feel comfortable talking with them. although i get even more scared when i have to go to my house every day… so what should i do in this case? i know i cant have it both ways…
And i also have no money or savings for college or post secondary education of any kind. i started saving when i was 5 but my mom spent my entire life savings on meth, so now i have nothing. im so unsure on how to help, not just myself, but moreso my little sister. shes the one im more worried about. i cant take care of her on my own and im worried that ill make the wrong choice when trying to decide what the right thing to do is…
And I dont need to be judged. I’m not just a stupid immature teenager who just doesnt like the rules and punishment. I don’t want criticism, I just want help.
Thank you to anybody out there whos willing to try and help.
Best answer:
Answer by tjdepere2003
go talk to the school counselor or the police officer assigned tol the school Explain your situation and ask for help.
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Battered woman’s shelter? They deal with emotional abuse, and they’ll stick up for you. If you got internet, google for something in your city, and talk to them. Yeah, a lot of group homes are shit, but you need to get yourself and your little sister out of there.
Well pray first and foremost and be completely open and specific when you pray to God. Hey that group home is sounding pretty good to me. I pray to the Almighty above that you guys are not being sexually abused, along with the verbal, mental, and emotional abuse that’s goin on. Your situation is unfortunate, and my heart goes out to you. Pray for strenghth and endurance, for the ability to be reasonable when you are being abused. Ask for the ability to be long suffering as well. You are very intelligent, pray to get past of being crushed in spirit due the verbal abuse.
Young person you are very intelligent you know, your mind is very powerful, and God can help you to think and respond just the way you should to make it through this difficult time. Also pray for your mothers recovery. Pray that she can get help look up suboxone and methadone clinics on the internet do some research about these and when the time is right share what you’ve learned with your mother. Its not late for her. Listen you will and are a very strong person.
This probably will not make sense to now but continue being kind to your dad being obedient to him. Pray to God asking him to change your dads heart condition and his thinking patterns. Cry when you need to, but also stay focused and try I know this will sound crazy, but try not to feel sorry for yourself . Feeling sorry for yourself can sometimes deminish your will to survive. Think positive and pray until you forget get what Gods name is or your own name, of course that wil never happen.
Know too that young people are being abused like this around the globe, but you can make a huge difference in your younger brother or sisters life by setting examples for them and being the complete opposite of either of your parents.
They both still love you just are not coping well in their own lives and don’t know what to do. Also pray for healthy ways to cope with your situation as well. I promise I wish I could care for and love you guys myself. I hurt deeply for you, but I know if you persevere in pray you’ll be take care of always.
Continue being the good person that you are.
emotional abuse=depression
i believe u need to talk to some one u feel u can trust .i know wat it feels like having parent that yells at u every day makes u do all the work around the house.makes u feel worthless!i think ur father has a problem not you!! you need to talk to someone before it can lead to depression all this stress….hes the one with the chip on his shoulder,u cant chamge someone that doesnt want to change they have to wanna change themself first hun.my thoughts r with u and ur sister.xxxx
please ask for some help
child,youth and family
friends
police
womans refugee??