Question by Common Sense: Wife has given me pure hell over past few weeks.?
First, busted for buying stuff to make meth, then admits addicted to it. Had my 3yo with her when busted. Got her out of jail, and then second whammy, she said she don’t want to be with me. Fine, Filing for divorce. NOW, she wants to work things out. I am not sure what to do.
Other facts: We have 2 kids with each other and 6 total. (all mine)
Her rights paternal rights where suspended when she was arrested, however, they
DCS, are holding off doing anything till after her court to see where they are proceeding.
She had started talking to other guys online threw some cheater site called
myfacebook. And YES it is a cheaters site, all you see on there is cheaters and
scum (ANYONE who would go for a married person is scum) BUT says she wont talk
to them anymore. (key logger on all computers now)(she agreed to it)(i also have
access to cell phone records online to see if she is texting them, and she knows)
Ex wife is now living here helping somewhat, but idk, all good for now, but feel like i am
sitting on the bow of the Titanic.
**She has told me she was diagnosed before with ADHD and BiPolar. but not on meds.
My wife agrees that we need marriage counseling, and she needs drug counseling.
Is there HOPE?? anyone out there been in this situation before?
My main concern is the kids. (I have custody during this due to state, and would retain them if we divorce so its not a kids thing) and keeping their life somewhat stable.
Best answer:
Answer by November Girl
like you said your main concern is the kids. Get rid of her, she too much trouble and stress. If she really want to work it out and be a family then she need to fix herself up first, go away get a rehab or something and come back to the family in a clean state as a mother and lovely wife. It already causing you worries and stress when she the one making all the troubles?
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If she has a good relationship with the kids, then you should try to fix your marriage with her. Because a divorce between you and her would hurt the kids too.
Before you agree to ANYTHING, get her out of the house now. Meth-heads are a danger to everyone around them. And she’s been cooking it. Tell her if she wants to come back she absolutely has to be clean for six months. She is the one with problems, you don’t need her to give you a houseful more.
Eighty percent of meth labs are busted by people reporting them.
The other twenty are discovered when they explode.
You do NOT want her in your house.
I have never been in your situation, because I would not let it get as far as it has. Your wife is a ball and chain on your life. You have made some mistakes but you are working your way toward a better life. She is preventing that. Think about it this way. If you can throw someone who is drowning a life preserver, you will certainly do that. But if when you try to save them they do everything they can to not let you and drag you down with them, you let go.
Your wife is a total loser. Why would you want to stay with her? Dump her and move on.
Well,the ball is in your court.Is there any hope?That is up to you if you love her enough.It sounds like YOU do,but it don’t sound like she really does.Sorry,if that hurts.She needs to go into treatment.It will not only help her with her drug problems but with her other issues as well.You need to do what is best for YOU.Good luck.