Question by Cinderelle: Please guide me if I reacted wrong with him ,I get wreck less, scared, shall i give him chance or i leave?
my fiancée an addict from 10 years I discovered after our engagement and I went with him to ( N A ) Narcotics Anonymous is an international, community-based association of recovering drug addicts and he’s in recovery and made 5 month now (you can’t all imagine the effort I did with him to pass his first steps) he was doing great and his supervisor was so happy from his result and suddenly he relapsed two days ago and he refused to back again to the (Na) and his supervisor called in the morning to come to his house to convince him to restart again, once he saw me he fall down with non stop crying at after talking to him I told him that he betrayed my trust and he’s the one who choose to leave me not me, and I told him I will ask you one thing before I leave your life, go again to (NA) and start over.
At the end he agree to go with them but he keep crying with holding my hand don’t want me to go away from him.. we all shocked from the way he act as he’s very strong person.
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Answer by Debbie V
Never, never, never get involved with someone with addiction problems.
Break up. Change your phone number. Move if you must.
Forget the tears. If he really cared he’d go to NA and get some help, but he won’t…
He’ll make you miserable for the rest of your life. Get away!!
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Well he should have his rehabilitation completed the first of all, let it be you leave him or not.
It;’s called tough love.but do not go back to him no matter what he pleads the decision is his. he can not say it was you who drove him to drugs. You did not. He chose to relapse you did not . Had you known about the drugs you would have had nothing to do with him but you stuck by him but he went back to them. This means he loves the drugs more than you. So get out of it and stay out of it no matter what emotional blackmail he tries and he will. Get yourself a decent life and I do wish you the best and if you get landed with a druggie or alcoholic (piss artist in Liverpool) get shut of him
You should get advice from NA or from an affiliate for relatives of addicts.
It may be that you should move out, until he’s been clean for X amount of time.
What you said to him was right: IF he chooses his drug, then it’s HIM who’s left you; and you need to leave him as a result of that.
There’s no way anyone can know whether he’ll succeed in kicking for good.
There are people who’ve done so; and there are people who keep going back to it.
Get some advice from someone who has professional experience with addicts.
If he doesn’t stick with it, leave him. Your life will be ruined also. I think he thought you would stay with him no matter what he did.