Question by heather!: my doughter keeps doing drugs!? please help!?
i found my daughter smoking pot in the basement a little while ago so i grounded her the next time she came home from her friends house late at night and she was really high but i know it wasn’t weed.she didn’t smell like it and she was really crazy when i asked her what it was that she took she screamed at me and said im not on drugs!i told her the next time she did drugs i was going to call the police nd last night she was playing her music really lowed in the basement so i went down there to tell her to turn it down and i caught her doing crystal meth. i cried and i slapped her across the face then i told her she cant live with me anymore if she does this again i didn’t call the police like i said i would to her because i want to give her another chance.i don’t know what im doing wrong! i feel like im a bad mother which i probably am but i want to nkow what 2do the next time she does something like this?shes already in counseling for her other problems she had. what should i do now?
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Answer by tomtoadtv
just tell her it is bad for u and keep trying to stop
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Send her ass to rehab!
Send that ungrateful little brat to juvie. Drugs R illegal, silly.
How about being a loving mother and get her help? Something is very missing in her life for her to turn to drugs. Not trying to say you are a bad mom, but what good does slapping and kicking her out to live on the streets going to do for her? You should tell her for her to continue to live with you she needs to get into re-hab and stick to the ultimatum.
Call the cops and have her room searched. Have her arrested if she is in possession of anything.
Then get yourself to an Al-anon meeting. Once there, get a sponsor and follow her suggestions.
Call the police and what ever you do dont let her move out as she will most likely take more drugs.
you should tell her to stop. then if the dosnot work the tell her you will call the cops. kick her out of the house
First, never issue ultimatums to a drug user unless you’ll follow through.
Second, how old is she?
um i suggest seeking professional help because i have a feeling you cant handle this correctly
you cant keep putting this off, you need to take action now otherwise everyday you waste shes ruinng her life more and more
When she’s not home, even though it’s an invasion of privacy, go search all areas of the house that she frequently hangs out in for drugs and discard of all the ones you find. Also, go buy something like the nicotine patch, and other drug remedy things and leave them in a really obvious place for her to find.
I really hope you can resolve this!
Good luck!
i think you should stop and look at yourself! you sleep around with your boyfriends brother and you leave her alone to screw a 30 year old! really i think you are a bad influence on her
You need to get your daughter into an intensive outpatient treatment program as soon as possible. If you refuse to see the problem and correct it you will only watch your daughter continue doing drugs.
It is not your fault that she is doing drugs. It is peer pressure. Your very best bet to save her life is to have her arrested and put into court ordered drug rehab. She is going to be mad at you for a while, but she’ll get over it. You can’t stop her from seeing the people that she gets the drugs from, and you can’t stop her yourself from doing the meth. I feel for you. Do not be afraid to call the police. You are doing it because you love her, and if you don’t do something soon, she will die. Best of luck to you.
well u can’t really do much, maybe try 2 find out why is he doing it and if it is that bad u can get her 2 shrink, or thsoe special rehabilitation camps, watch the film “Augusta, Gone “
You need to get your daughter help ASAP. Pot is one thing, but meth is a completely different matter.
She is going to fall to its addiction and ruin her life and the lives of many around her. Get her help now before it is too late.
I know it sounds a little harsh but you have to crack down on her if you wish to have a daughter still in a few years. Meth is easy to overdose on, please, if you love her, get tough with her and call the police, juvvie, or rehab.
If you have the money for it, take her to a rehab. If not, try to take her to aa or something like that. Also, you should go talk to a substance specialist and ask them how you should handle the situation.
My answer will be just as hard on you as it is on her. Jerk her butt out of public school, home school her butt. Take away all her priveleges, phones, cars etc. Give her a hard reality slap, if you don’t save her now, you may never be able to. You will have seclude her from all the people and places she does drugs. I raised my child in the country, he had no access to such crap.
that’s serious crap hon – tell her counsellors for her “other prob..s” AND TELL THE POLICE to come HAUL HER BUTT AWAY before you end up in jail with her !!!
people use drugs to get rid of their problems. they think that’s what drugs do when really drugs are just making ur problems worse. u need to get her some help. obviously councelling isnt working. u also need to call her friends parents so they know whats going on w/ their kids. this is serious. u need to take her to somewhere better. drugs are illegal and im sure she is underaged so she should not be doing crack either. she is causing more problems, not getting rid of hers. she is making friends with the wrong people too. u should home school her, so that way u will know that when she is ready, u could send her out to the real world. she has to know that drugs arent gonna ssolve her problems. drinking wont. smoking wont. and drugs definetely wont.
Talk to her counselor about the drug use. She is headed down a bad road and needs to be stopped now. She needs education on drug abuse to see where shes heading. Don’t tell her one thing and do another. You must follow through with threats to her abuse or she will push it to the wall. Do something now. If her counselor doesn’t help call the police and get her into the system so she can get help with her addiction.
Rehab.
Now.
Before Its Too Late.
Or She Will Die.
There is one way, if she keeps the drama then you need to act, first thing you need to do is act tough that means kick her out of the face and or call the police. Police will take her away for a while until she learns to behave. Being a bad mother does not sound like you. My friends do weed I usually see what happens to them. One friend got caught by his dad and his dad called the police, after 4 months he changed, his dad visited him and got him back home and his son was different when I saw him I never saw him touch weed again or talk about it.
Let her get scared and that can change the story around. If you are nervous you should be.
It’s not an easy task I hope everything works.
And also if by 4 months doesn’t work take her to a program.
most likely its not your fault she’s doin drugs. i’m in highschool and the best kids i know do shit. basically they get bored, want to fit in, or just try it out for fun. however crystal meth and stuff like that is pretty extreme. most other people would disagree with me but i would go through all her stuff when shes not home and get all her drugs, cut her off you know. then either ground her again or send her to rehab or something. im thinkin you should shoot for rehab
First, since you told her you would call the cops, you need to follow through. Talk to one of the detectives or cops that work at her school, if she is in school – often they can sit down with a student and give them the low-down of what will happen to them legally *if caught*.
Next, you mention that your daughter is already in counselling – call her counsellor and tell him/ her about this – this is something that needs to come up in her next counselling session.
I know it’s hard to find your child using drugs when you clearly do not agree with this type of lifestyle – right now, she needs your unconditional love but NOT enabling love. Don’t issue warnings that you won’t be able to follow through on (like kicking her out of the house – more than likely she would move in with friends who also use drugs and her problem could seriously escalate)
Now, a *bad* mom would just look the other way, would not care, and would not try to get her child help. You are doing the opposite of that – you care, you love your daughter, and you want to make a difference in her life – sounds like a good mom in deep water to me… you are in a really tough spot, but you’re not a bad mom. Some of the best parents have had children go the route of drugs for a season – it’s a result of the choice made by the child who is stretching their wings, not necessarily a result of bad parenting. Get yourself into counselling or a productive support group for parents dealing with children or other family members in drugs or alcohol abuse. I say productive because there are some groups where the same complaints go round and round and round, but nothing is ever accomplished and it’s more of a gripe session than a support group. You need a productive group or counsellor to help you and to help her through you.
Wishing you the best…