Question by wild_luv: bf tryin 2 get custody of his son while ex gets married to move them to a rehab with her bf will judge let her?
First of all his ex has never had a stable home for them and has been in the homeless shelter 3 times in the past 2 years and all the places she has been were never safe and she refuses to get a job. The mom and boyfriend share a bed with him and it’s seems bad now because sometimes when I lye down he tries to hump me, and we don’t ever do anything like that in front of him and he also only 3. Now my bf has filed for custody. During mediation she said she wanted to go to rehab for herself for doing meth but refused to go to n/a meetings. the rehab is 2 hours away and his father thinks it would be best for her to get it together without bringing him along and to do it closer to home because the mediator said it’s best for a three year old to see both parents equally. When he asked her to do it near home she said no because her boyfriend got kicked out of that one and needed to be in rehab or was going to go to jail again. So when he got kicked out she rushed and used what little money she had to get a marriage license so they could move with him in a family rehab center and that the judge won’t try to tare them apart if they are married. It’s seems like to us that once more she is putting her boyfriends needs over what’s best for her son because in the past when they finally had a stable home he committed a crime and went on the run and she took her son along. Will the judge see it’s not best for the child or will he agree with her and to not split a family up?
And his father and I have a son together and have a stable home and stable income and we want to see his son have a better life that we know we can provide.
we live in California and cannot afford a lawyer. Before he filed for custody he called the sheriff to do a welfare check and talked to sharp to help him and told them about her parenting but they just told him that he could not do anything because he didn’t have custody and during mediation they said the only way he could have his son stay with him until custody was decided is if she got kicked out of her home or moved. Would calling cps be too harsh on the kid and mom because she is very unpredictable and unstable when upset and she now knows where we live and is the type to harass.
Also, before they started go to court she got denied temp custody and visitation and he got denied partial temp but yet she has him and won’t let him have for more than 2 days because he didn’t give him back once because she was raped in their apartment and he didn’t feel it was safe to bring him there and she won’t let that go.
live in butte county
Also the only reason she wants to go to this rehab is so that she can live with her boyfriend she doesn’t need to but he does or he’ll go back to jail. Do you think the judge will see her trying to do whats best for her and her boyfriend and not her son or but now their married and we are not and that the judge will favor them?
Best answer:
Answer by Hollie W
Not sure what county you are in but you both have rights and you need to lawyer up. Get you a attorney or even contact Children Protective Service and voice your concerns if you do it that way the first thing they will do is drug test EVERYONE then will arrange for the additional testing and help that your child may need.
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
Hi, you certainly have valid concerns!! I used to work in child protection services and the child is certainly at risk. I would contact your local DHS and see if they can give you any suggestions. You may even file a complaint and, if the department decides to do an investigation, the child would be placed with you until a decision is made. If they decide that the mother’s environment is o.k. they will send the child back but, in the many cases I have dealt with they usually have the child stay with a relative, etc., until the mother is out of rehab. If the child was older, they may benefit from the family counseling they would receive there but, your son is quite young. Normally, he would be in a nursery most of the day while mom attended classes etc. The other option is to also call DHS and make a report about the child’s inappropriate sexual acting out. This is a sure sign that something has happened somewhere. A child that age does not know anything about sex except what he saw or experienced. Thirdly, get a lawyer and go to court, document EVERYTHING that happens, is said or done, the dates etc. This goes a long way in court. Apply for custody…temporary custody…and go from there. Due to your home situation I feel that the child may be placed with you burt, you never know what the courts are going to do!! Good LUCK!! JOSA